Intuition Test

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Very Well-Rounded You have: 70% SCIENTIFIC INTUITION and 70% EMOTIONAL INTUITION

The graph on the right represents your place in Intuition 2-Space. As you can see, you scored above average on emotional intuition and above average on scientific intuition. (Weirdly, your emotional and scientific intuitions are equally strong.) Your Emotional Intuition score is a measure of how well you understand people, especially their unspoken needs and sympathies. A high score score usually indicates social grace and persuasiveness. A low score usually means you're good at Quake. Your Scientific Intuition score tells you how in tune you are with the world around you; how well you understand your physical and intellectual environment. People with high scores here are apt to succeed in business and, of course, the sciences. Try my other test! The 3 Variable Funny Test It rules.

My test tracked 2 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 56% on Scientific You scored higher than 61% on Interpersonal

Link: The 2-Variable Intuition Test written by jason_bateman on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the The Dating Persona Test

My Type of Girl

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The Debutante 47% Sexy-Cute, 53% Dark-Light, 66% Artsy-Stylish

Cute, neither Dark nor Light, and Stylish, you'll find the Debutante at high-class New York parties, making the rounds. She'll have a glass of champagne in one gloved hand, her hair perfectly coifed, her makeup exactingly applied. Her slinky, perfect little black dress keeps many an eye firmly on her, wondering what lies beneath. If you liked my test, Please rate it highly! Thanks! Also, make sure to check out my Beautiful Faces Test if you haven't already. See All The Categories Sexy Dark Artsy The Goth Girl Sexy Dark Not Artsy or Stylish The Brooding Poet Sexy Dark Stylish The Mistress Sexy Not Dark or Light Artsy The Hippie Chick Sexy Not Dark or Light Not Artsy or Stylish The Hot Friend Sexy Not Dark or Light Stylish The Sorority Girl Sexy Light Artsy The Actress Sexy Light Not Artsy or Stylish Your Friend's Sister Sexy Light Stylish The Prom Queen Cute Dark Artsy The Suicide Girl Cute Dark Not Artsy or Stylish The Bad Girl Cute Dark Stylish The Bettie Page Girl Cute Not Dark or Light Artsy The Art Student Cute Not Dark or Light Not Artsy or Stylish The Girl Next Door Cute Not Dark or Light Stylish The Debutante Cute Light Artsy The New Age chick Cute Light Not Artsy or Stylish The Favorite Friend Cute Light Stylish The Cheerleader

My test tracked 3 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 40% on Sexy-Cute You scored higher than 47% on Dark-Light You scored higher than 90% on Artsy-Stylish

Link: The Your Type of Girl Test written by dgc20e on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the The Dating Persona Test

My Socio-Political Type

You are a Social Moderate (55% permissive) and an... Economic Liberal (36% permissive) You are best described as a: Centrist Link: The Politics Test on Ok Cupid Also: The OkCupid Dating Persona Test

Isn't it ironic how pathetic blogging really is?

You know, I fought the flow of the stream for a long time and could not convince myself to actually invest effort in blogging. I think that as a general rule, what we all post is mostly sycophantic drivel intended to make ourselves feel better. The irony is, whether anyone agrees with our posts or reads them, it actually does make us feel better. Why is that? Probably the cathartic release associated with just getting something off your chest.

I went through a bad bout of depression recently. I felt like I had no outlet, like I had nowhere to just speak my mind. Somewhere along the way, I found a couple of friends that would let me bend their ear, and then I started blogging. Between the two, I am a much better adjusted person, and able to deal with more of the world around me than I was, say, a few months ago.

What am I saying? I guess, bring on the drivel. Get it all off your chest and out in the open. You will feel so much better, and feel like you can face the day with a little more stable emotional state. Gotta love it, now I'm off to bed.

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The Law of Unintended Consequences

I have been pondering choice quite a bit recently. Choice drives so much of our life, and how we experience it, and our recognition of our choices has much to do with our acceptance of it. Tonight though, the Law of Unintended Consequences comes to mind, and I want to try to capture some thoughts about it.

Every action has an equal and opposite reaction, according to Sir Isaac Newton. Every choice has consequences and ramifications, which in my mind correlates to the economic concept of opportunity cost. Opportunity cost is defined as the choice not accepted, or that which we forgo for the choice we have made. However, each choice has a trickle-down effect, and we often are not cognizant of that effect.

I bring as an example a co-worker. This co-worker and I have historically disagreed and had significant conflict. The central core of our disagreement is that while he means well, and is very passionate about the same things I am, he has limited awareness of the trickle-down effect of his actions and decisions. For example, in establishing a needed customer portal, he did not put any thought into who would have to perform the long-term maintenance of that portal, nor the cost associated with it. The Law of Unintended Consequences kicks in, and now our firm has to support a portal that should have been charged to the customer, and we have to do it at our own cost, because it was not negotiated with the customer.

This same concept applies to relationships, which is another hot topic on my mind. Say I am interested in someone. Say she is not interested in me at this time. Say someone else is interested in me, but I am less interested in her than the first woman. This trickle-down effect has an unintended consequence of making a number of people unhappy because we were looking in the wrong direction at the wrong time. Ultimately, we will all go and complain to someone else about how miserable dating is, but never acknowledge the opportunity cost we passed up because we were focused on an (at that time) unattainable goal. The Law of Unintended Consequences says that we did not intend to cause this chain reaction of disappointment, and yet our choices created that chain and maintained it for some period of time.

Is it possible to always be cognizant of the chain reaction of our choices? No. Is it reasonable to be concerned about the full effects of the Law in every decision? No. However, when it comes to important decisions, particularly where there are ramifications with friends and acquaintances that we care about, we should at least consider the consequences that inevitably arise.

Where do you stand on this? Are you cognizant of the Law, or is it a new concept to you? How does this apply to your own life?

I go back to where I was on an earlier post on my blog about two years ago. The Platinum Rule, which overrides the Golden Rule in my mind. Do unto others as they would have done unto them. Think about what they want, and become a servant leader. See how this fits with a life led by integrity, cognizant of the Law of Unintended Consequences, and aware of, and considerate of, others' needs. A little more of this, and the world would be a much happier, much more peaceful, place.

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Rebounds and Anti-Rebounds

I'm not sure whether rebound relationships are worse, or the penny ante antics that people pull when they are deliberately or subconsciously avoiding commitment. Rebounds certainly have their challenges, as there is inevitably someone that gets hurt, if not both sides. But I propose that the alternate can be far worse.

Think of it this way: say a man starts falling for a woman he has been seeing. Sometime after they start seeing each other, the woman says that she is not interested in anything, and that the other person may be someone she would be interested in, but not right now. The man watches this woman bounce from man to man, not really getting serious, not necessarily being promiscuous. The man makes it clear that he is willing to put into it whatever is required, but she just takes advantage of it, asking for help, getting attention, but providing little in return. Eventually, this man will walk away hurt and upset because he was willing, and the other person was too busy reliving her youth.

Which is worse? A rebound relationship built on false pretenses, or a relationship that never gets off the ground because of the immaturity of the other? The rebound relationship is certainly harder to discern at the outset, though not impossible. The other relationship is easier to identify, but more life sucking because the man thinks that he has a chance.

Honesty is not limited to fact. Honesty ties into integrity, and it has not to do with just the words, but also the actions of the individual. I may be factually honest in my words, but show little integrity in my actions by taking advantage of the interest of the other. This is neither appropriate, nor healthy.

In the end, we should probably avoid both types of relationships where we can. However, we are human and we do tend to get ourselves into nice little messes along the way. My guidance is this: enter into no relationship that you are not willing to accept the risk of being hurt or losing out. Live life, regret nothing, but never forget your own needs and desires along the way.

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Choice, Vision, and Mission, Part 1

Cats are the coolest thing in the world. I sat here for a bit trying to figure out what to write, and Ollie showed up and flopped down on my shoulder and is watching my screen as I write this. It's always when you most need a friend that a cat shows up and reminds you that you're loved. Ollie is really good at that tactic, coming and loving me when I need a friend. Chip is more..... demanding, for him it's more about what he needs than what I need.

On a different topic, I would like to share some thoughts about choice today. The temptation is always to put the blame for things externally without taking responsibility for our choices. For example, people will be upset that they cannot find someone special, but they fail to acknowledge the choices they made that led them there. They will choose not to ignore that there were interested people that reached out to them, but that fell outside their selection criteria. Perhaps the criteria set too high of a bar, or perhaps the criteria was incongruent with their real desires. Either way, many people wander through life looking for that magical something and failing to find it because it is right in front of them. Why? Because we are short-sighted people that fail to see the comprehensive picture of our future.

Vision does not only apply to business. Vision and mission both apply to our personal lives, apply to how we approach the attainment of our goals and desires. But our vision is faulty -- we miss the simple things because we are too caught up in false goals, ideas that are either unattainable, or ideas that are only attainable after we achieve shorter-term goals that never receive the focus.

I am guilty of all of this as well from time to time. But I ask you this? Are you really interested in finding someone? Is it possible that we have skewed perspectives? I think so. I cannot understand how someone could say "all I want is a nice guy (or girl)" and then ignore them. I love the movie Just Friends. The premise of the movie are high school friends, where the boy has a crush on the girl, are "just friends", and how in their adult years they deal with the ramifications of their high school choices. How often does this play out in the real world? Every day. Each one of us has had a friendship or relationship like that. And ultimately, do we not inevitably miss out on something when we do that?

I'm also amazed at how quick people are to make judgments and misunderstand situations. I told someone tonight that I was screwing around, and she took it literally. I'm sorry, I'm just not that much of a ho. Is it really so important for all of us to be so judgmental and sensitive to offhand comments?

I hope you all have a good night. I think I've had enough for the night.

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Interpersonal Relationships

So, a number of things strike me as interesting tonight.  I am going to try to put out a clear, concise post, but I know that I have no business doing so at this hour.  Pardon my ramblings.



First, I realized that people are messed up.  I say that because I fail to fathom how someone can say that they want to be friends, and then cut ties because they cannot have your undivided, devoted attention every minute you are around.  Call it obsessive, call me an ass, but I am not a one-person man.  I have many friends, and I try to share time with all of them, as best I can.  Sometimes, too, I have needs, and I need to talk with a specific person about something -- even though another good friend may be on.  Obsessive people confound me, and I was face-to-face with a freak tonight.  Honesty does not mean telling everything, every time.  Honesty is being honest about the things you are saying, and not deceiving someone by withholding important information.  During the initial stages of friendship, it is reasonable that some things may not be out in the open -- deal with it.  We all do it, and there is nothing wrong with taking time to develop a friendship.  Sometimes, along the way, we find that someone we thought we could be friends with we cannot.  In those cases, do you really want someone knowing all your dirty laundry?



I also came to a new acceptance this week that, when you care about someone, you have to let them go.  You have to let them go, and if they return of their own volition, then they are yours.  If they do not, then it was not meant to be.  I am not necessarily talking about love -- it can apply to friendship too.  I am finding myself challenged daily with this situation, finding that I have to have faith, and let go, if I want to have any sort of deep friendship with some people.  It is a dangerous game to play, especially when you find yourself becoming emotionally invested.  It is also hard to do, because when you are happy and enjoying yourself, you want nothing more than to have more of that addictive drug "happiness".  But the sad truth is, to get what you really want, you need to be patient, persevere, and hope that things work out the way you want.



I have loved twice and lost.  I have married once, to a woman that I might have loved, but cannot recall due to the bitterness we both now have.  I am hoping that the next time around, things work out differently.  I am trying to take a different approach to life, trying very hard to be patient and persevere -- not my strong suits in my personal life.  So far, I am more calm and happy than I have been in the past, but I still feel those jerks in me that say, "wake up, chase after what you want, no holds barred".  I know that will not succeed, and so I usually am able to contain myself, but it is still hard.



I am ending my day talking with a new friend from Australia.  What an interesting conversation it is.  We are discussing friendship, love, and wandering the countryside in terms of how we handle our relationships with others.  It is odd to me, though, that I, who am highly messed up, have a clearer understanding of who I am, where I am going, and who I want to be, than people who are more stable emotionally and mentally than I am.  It may be a crisis of identity -- we all go through it at some point.  I find that I am very comfortable embracing the identity that I have developed, even if it is not always the behavior I would like to display.  The true irony of the conversation, though, is the things she loves about her friendship with one person equally apply to us, but she is unaware of that fact, as if blinded by the newness.  What irony is that?



So, I go to sleep, continuing to ponder.  Where is it we are all going, and why is it that we have so much trouble relating to each other?  There is a whole series of posts to be made on that topic, but I have to say, we are very distrustful beings sometimes.  A little love would do the world good.

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